So I did it. I buzzed all my hair off. And I love it.
You would imagine that after 29 years of long, luscious curls, I would miss them. But 24 hours later? I don’t miss them at all.
Even tonight, after the makeup is stripped off, sitting with my chin on my knees in my pajamas, I’m astounded at the way I feel about myself. It’s not what I expected. I was worried that I would feel some form of self-rejection. I worried that I would instantly hate it and bawl my eyes out.
But when I look in the mirror, all I see is… me. And I don’t hate it.
In fact, I love my buzzed head.
I think it’s incredible that I can shave off almost three decades of curls and still feel beautiful. Maybe, in this moment, even more beautiful than I did a week ago. I can see the features of my face, and I can see the slight edginess that I feel, but don’t usually show. Every day I’m getting braver, and this is just one more step forward. It’s a liberating feeling.
Anyway, deep thoughts aside, here are five reasons why women look fabulous with a buzzed mane of hair.
ONE: It’s empowering.
I had an uplifting conversation with a local shop owner today. “You cut your hair!” she exclaimed, “I could never pull that off, but you look absolutely stunning!” She went on to tell me, “I wish I were that brave. You’re so sassy and so fun. It suits you.”
And I smiled as we discussed bravery, feminism, and strength. Her husband walked up and joined in with a smile on his face, full of complements. It was an uplifting conversation that followed me around for the rest of the day. Discussions turned inward instead of outward. And it was beautiful.
TWO: I get to feel new feels and it’s sensational!
GUYS! DID YOU KNOW THE WIND ON YOUR HEAD FEELS CRAZY COOL? When I was little, I used to imagine colors that the human eye can’t see. How would that feel? I wondered. Well, this is a color I couldn’t see before. It’s the color of WOW! HOW FREAKING COLD AND WONDERFUL DOES THAT WIND FEEL ON MY NOGGIN!?
To that end, a hot shower is a whole new experience too! My husband laughed and had to show me how to wash my hair with a dime size dollop of shampoo and conditioner. “Do I use conditioner?” I asked. “Absolutely! It’ll make it softer,” he responded. Since when did we swap roles? It was awesome.
THREE: To boost my confidence.
Buzzing it down shows the world your face, your smile, your eyes, the contours of your cheekbones, the edge of your chin, your forehead, your eyebrows, and your ears. Despite what you may think, I have significant insecurities about my face. Stuff like those spare hairs (so many spare hairs), and cheekbones that can make my face look very round. But by deciding to combat those insecurities with bravery, I feel better. I’m letting my insecurities go. They don’t matter. They’re simply differences. And differences are what make you truly beautiful.
FOUR: To break down idealistic beauty barriers and subsequently take like two seconds to get ready.
I can’t count how many times I’ve looked at my husband in jealousy and thought about how lucky he was to not need makeup. And why do guys get the luxury of being sexy without long hair or makeup? This timeless question of fairness is bogus. Girls can be incredibly feminine with short hair and no makeup. We know that, but we’re still scared of cutting our hair.
In fact, we tend to shy away from makeup wearing men, too (when honestly, I’ve seen some guys make eyeliner look so fabulous I wonder why I even try).
I don’t really want to spend an hour combing tangles in the shower, and five minutes rushing to get product in my hair while it’s dripping wet, and then plop it all in a wet t-shirt for 30 minutes, followed by another 20 to get it blow-dried, and then another 10 to tame the frizz from the blow dry and THEN HAVE TO DO MY FRIGGIN MAKE UP. And since my hair is curly, I can only hope that it’s a good hair day after that.
It. Is. Exhausting. Everyone gets annoyed. The kid’s annoyed because “Where is mama?” The husband’s annoyed because, “What the heck takes so long” and he so doesn’t get it. Guys have it so easy. And I want it easy too.
FIVE: Because I just plain wanted to.
Here’s the kicker. Do what you want to do to your hair. It’s yours. It’s an expression of you. And look up with pride after it’s done. Because confidence is the name of the beauty game. If you have it, so will everyone else. Look people in the eye and smile even when you don’t feel at your best and you’ll find yourself shining.
Go do something crazy, guys. It’s absolutely one of the most fun things you’ll ever do.